Turn Painful Endings Into Powerful New Beginnings
Oct 31, 2017
We as humans are creatures of habit and tend to find comfort in the familiar. And it's ok, but sometimes in life, there are moments when we find ourselves outside of our comfort zones. Moments that are life changing like the birth of a new baby or the death of a loved one, losing a job or getting a divorce.
Below are some tips on how to deal with inevitable changes in your life that might force you into a new beginning:
Let go of the things you can’t control.
The majority of things are simply a part of your life because you keep contemplating them. Positive things happen after you emotionally distance yourself from the negative things. Stop holding on to what is painful, and make space for the things that feel right.
Accept and embrace reality.
All things happen at the perfect moment, not too soon or too late. For everything you suffer a loss of, you gain something different; and for whatever you gain, you lose another thing. You don’t have to accept it, but it’s much easier if you do.
Change your mind.
Change is the only constant thing in life. The starting point toward positive change is to change your perspective. Growth is not possible without change. If you can't change your mind, you can't improve anything in your life. Often all you have to do is take a look at things from a different point of view.
Hold on tight to the good things.
When life’s troubles knock you down, and you can’t see anything but darkness, don’t waste precious energy trying to burrow your way out. Alternatively, use what energy you have left to reach out to the good things already present in your life.
Relax and regroup.
Strength is about choosing your journey, living with the consequences, and gaining knowledge from them. Sometimes you do the best you can and still end up with a wreck. When this occurs, don’t be disheartened. You haven't failed; you merely discovered what not to do. So relax, collect yourself, and start again.
Making a massive life change or trying new things is often scary. But having regrets is even more terrifying. Don’t let fear hold you back. Live your life in such a way that you don't regret the chances you didn't take, the love you never allowed, and the gifts you never offered.
Value what you have learned.
There's nothing more wonderful and powerful than a smile that has battled through the tears. Don’t regret the energy and time that were filled with hurt. Be happy that you learned as a result and gained the strength to rise above it.
Realise every step is necessary.
We gain knowledge from each step we take. Whatever you did today was an essential step to reach tomorrow. Be proud of yourself. Perhaps you aren't where you want to be in life, and you aren't the person you've hoped to be, but because of all the lessons you’ve learned in the process, you're much better than you once were.
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